It’s not that sex is the most important thing in life, but any woman who aims at a long-term relationship should know that she won’t succeed unless she achieves harmony in bed. As they say, guys are guys, and quality sex is very important to them.

Of course, each guy has his own sexuality, yet there are certain things that most of them detest. What’s weird is that even the most experienced wives often neglect these issues, to say nothing about newbie lovers, while, in fact, it’s all very simple.

SO, dear ladies, if you want to achieve harmony in bed, remember that, most probably, your partner would be put off by the following things:


Guys don’t like coldness in bed. Passive, restrained attitude kills his passion, and such a partner cannot remain attractive in his eyes. You don’t really need to scream at the top of your voice, scratch and twist, but if you lie there like a log, you make a grave mistake, for to him it would most probably feel like masturbation inside your body or having sex with a rubber doll. If you do go to bed with a guy, try to be proactive, even if you are not exactly in the right mood. Remember, it’s harder to re-kindle an extinguished fire than smoldering ashes.


Guys are more thrilled by diversity than girls; no family values can compensate for this urge. That’s the nature of male sexuality, you should always keep it in mind. Monotony in bed leads to boredom, and boredom is rust on your love. Rather than accuse him later of infidelity or indifference, try to stay open to novelty, otherwise you would definitely place your relationship at risk.



If she’s reluctant, he’ll never get hard. For a man the lady’s desire is the best aphrodisiac; this maxim goes without saying. He expects playfulness in bed, he loves to be teased and seduced; if you don’t provide these things, his interest will inevitably subside. Don’t rely on him arranging and organizing everything; even if he’s a natural leader, he needs your cooperation. Making him run the show all the time won’t work; this kind of game wouldn’t give him enough thrill.


Right, her pleasure is number one priority for most loving guys, but don’t usurp your power by becoming a consumer. For him, a permanent partner is a “guaranteed pleasure”. The more value he gets out of your lovemaking, the more grateful he will feel; otherwise you will fail to meet his expectations. Enjoying sex and making her pleasure obvious to her partner, the woman should remember that he expects his share of pleasure too, and she should provide it. Remember, only if the food is good your guest will ask for a second helping.


Telling a guy about his inadequacy in bed is the gravest mistake a woman can make. It means hurting his pride, since for a guy sex is both pleasure and self-assertion. If you’re unhappy with something, try to mend matters by subtle hints or by being proactive; if you blame him directly, you’re on a fast track to saying goodbye or turning him into an impotent, at least as far as you’re concerned. If you like to criticize him, don’t take his soft-off for a surprise.


Even though guys like to pretend that they are hardcore machos, some of them tend to be fearful and conservative in bed. If you push them too hard, it might cause an unwelcome response: instead of intensifying his desire, you will kill it. If you are eager to drag him into bed or try something new, make sure to watch his reaction. If he’s cautious, it means that you’re too pushy; slow down, or he will freak out. A game is a much better strategy than pushiness. Try to entice him to go to bed, seduce him with your ingenuity, rather than drag him by the scruff or force him to join your experiment.



Yes, sometimes we need it real bad, but a penis is a fine-tuned instrument. It’s connected to his brain, and it only takes one “click” to switch off his erection. You should never make haste. By straddling a limp penis, you can end up having him “lost in action”. It would slip out of the vagina, and it won’t make much of a difference if you blame your partner. Blame yourself for going too fast. A minute-long blowjob would make all the difference, and you would gallop off to a cloud in paradise, yet precipitance killed it all. Your stallion was not harnessed for the gallop. Remember that haste is a bad condiment to your love dish.


Sex can be spontaneous, hardcore, and still guys enjoy romance at least as much as girls. Homeliness kills their passion. If, right after sex, she jumps up and rushes to the shower, or begins to change the sheets, it kills the romance of the act, sex boils down to just easing oneself. You need to remain his mistress for a while longer, rather than turn into the mistress of the house, which is way less sexy. Candles, fragrances, music… these might be helpful too, and it’s up to you to create the romantic atmosphere, if you want to retain his love.


Whatever Napoleon said regarding Josephine’s body odors, most guys prefer pleasant smells, impeccable grooming and nice underwear. For them, a woman is a refined creature, even if they prefer hardcore sex. Most guys would be put off by stale odor between her legs if they decided to go for a cunnilingus – sorry, nothing personal. Before going to bed, change your “cozy panties” for something more attractive. Lack of grooming is unattractive, and you should know that sooner or later it would start turning him off sexually, however important are the family values that you share.


It doesn’t sound like much in comparison to the things listed above, yet this point is worth mentioning. When you head for bed or relax after your lovemaking, it’s much better to turn on some music, rather than blabber away or discuss household issues; almost any guy would get upset, whether you resent it or not. Remember that you have other instruments of seduction – enticing gaze, enigmatic smile, catlike grace. In bed, you need your tongue for oral caresses, not for blabber. All the guys think so.

By Andrey Rider
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