An Experience for the Senses
Sex is something that brings you and your spouse together in a very complete way. You give yourself, wholly, to each other, and are able to express love in a beautiful, and meaningful way. Using all of your senses in the love-making arena, can make for very enjoyable, and fulfilling sex. Here are some thoughts on why you need your five senses (and an additional sixth sense) when making love.
THE 6 SENSES OF LOVE-MAKING
1. See: Your spouse is OH-SO-GOOD-LOOKING! You know it. That is one of the many reasons you married them, right? When making love, you need to see your spouse. Keep the lights on (or dimmed) so you can actually see, and enjoy, each other. Really see your spouse. Take them in. Not just their outer beauty/handsomeness – but their inner beauty as well. See the good in them, as a person. See their potential. See their needs, thoughts, fears, struggles, dreams, hopes, and joys.
2. Hear: Not only is your spouse good looking, but they also have feelings, needs, and thoughts that they probably want to express. Listen to your spouse. They have a lot more to share than you realize. Rub their back while you talk about the day and catch up. Sex is just as much about connecting emotionally as it is about connecting physically. And, connecting emotionally before making love will help you connect more deeply in physical ways (though this sometimes works vice versa, i.e. some men feel close emotionally after being close physically).
Music can also help contribute to a very romantic setting. Oh, and silence. Ladies, listen up. When it is time for making love, the time for talking is over (aka – don’t mention all those random thoughts that sometimes go through your head!). A little bit of silence is good for both you and your spouse and it allows you to focus on each other more completely.
3. Smell: This can make or break a romantic evening… trust us. One word (or maybe three) = Axe Body Spray. Need we say more? Okay, if you don’t like Axe, then spray on your favorite cologne or perfume. Whatever your preference is, something that smells yummy is a great way to set the mood.
4. Touch: Feeling close to your one-and-only, and being able to share physical touch is a wonderful thing. We probably don’t need to expound too much on this one, do we? The point is, because of the special relationship you share as husband and wife (and the promises you’ve made to each other!), you can touch your spouse in ways that no one else can (or should!). Sex is intimate because it is something special that you and your spouse only share with each other.
5. Taste: Make sure you brush your teeth. Fresh breath makes kissing much, much more enjoyable (This is especially important for those who enjoy making love in the morning)! Here’s a tip: Lifesavers Wintergreen Mints. Not only do they taste (and smell) great, but they also spark when you chew them in the dark!
6. Feel (sixth sense): This is really what physical intimacy is all about – feeling close to one another. Not just the physical high that comes from making love (though that is nice), but the sense of connection, cohesion, confidence and love that comes when you have sex.
In other words, intimacy should invite a deeper, truer kind of love into your marriage. It should be a very positive, beautiful, fun, and fulfilling thing. It should be something that’s very special between the two of you, as husband and wife. Sex should make both of you feel safe and secure, and offer you and your spouse a way to share everything together.
Using your six senses should definitely help create a positive, fulfilling, and fun experience for you and your spouse when it comes to being intimate together. So, go nurture your marriage.
Source – nurturingmarriage.org